부모의 책무/역할

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<Parental Responsibilities: 부모의 책무> 하정미 일부 번역
아무도 자녀를 기르는 일이 쉽다고 말하지 않는다. 자녀가 태어날 때 안내서나 지침도 갖고 나오지 않으며 멈춤 버튼도 갖고 있지 않다. 그들은 충족되어야할 신체적 그리고 정서적 욕구들을 갖고 태어난다. 부모가 이러한 그들의 구체적인 욕구를 충족시키지 못하면 광범위하고 오래 동안 지속되는 부정적인 결과가 초래될 수 있다. 

다음은 부모가 자녀의 신체적 정서적 안녕을 위하여 지켜야 하는 8가지 핵심 책무를 나타낸다. 

1. Provide an environment that is SAFE.

A. Keep your child free from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.

B. Keep unsafe objects locked up or out of reach of your child.

C. Get to know your child's caregivers (get references or background checks).

D. Correct any potential dangers around the house.

E. Take Safety Precautions: Use smoke and carbon monoxide detectors, lock doors at night,always wear seatbelts, etc.

 

2. Provide your child with BASIC NEEDS.

A. Water

B. Plenty of nutritious foods

C. Shelter

D. A warm bed with sheets, blankets, and a pillow

E. Medical care as needed/Medicine when ill

F. Clothing that is appropriate for the weather conditions

G. Space (a place where he or she can go to be alone)

 

3. Provide your child with SELF-ESTEEM NEEDS.

A. Accept your child's uniqueness and respect his or her individuality.

B. Encourage (don't push) your child to participate in a club, activity, or sport.

C. Notice and acknowledge your child's achievements and pro-social behavior.

D. Encourage proper hygiene (to look good is to feel good, or so they say!).

E. Set expectations for your child that are realistic and age-appropriate.

F. Use your child's misbehavior as a time to teach, not to criticize or ridicule.

 

4. Teach your child MORALS and VALUES.

A. Honesty

B. Respect

C. Responsibility

D. Compassion

E. Patience

F. Forgiveness

G. Generosity

 

5. Develop MUTUAL RESPECT with your child.

A. Use respectful language

B. Respect his or her feelings

C. Respect his or her opinions

D. Respect his or her privacy

E. Respect his or her individuality

 

6. Provide DISCIPLINE which is effective and appropriate.

A. Structured

B. Consistent

C. Predictable

D. Fair

 

7. Involve yourself in your child's EDUCATION.

A. Communicate regularly with your child's teacher(s)

B. Make sure that your child is completing his or her homework each night.

C. Assist your child with his or her homework, but don't DO the homework.

D. Talk to your child each day about school (what is being studied, any interesting events,...etc.).

E. Recognize and acknowledge your child's academic achievements.

 

8. Get to KNOW YOUR CHILD.

A. Spend quality time together.

B. Be approachable to your child.

C. Ask questions.

D. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.

 

우리는 부모가 지켜야할 책무를 살펴보았다. 다음에서는 부모의 책무가 아닌 것을 살펴볼 곳이다. 다음 내용은 어떠한 부모도 이러한 욕구를 충족시켜주어야 할 책임은 없다는 것을 보여준다. 

1. 자녀에게 가능한 비싼 옷이나 신을 사주는 것. 

2. 어느 정도 가능한 나이가 되면 자녀의 물건을 뒷정리하거나 방을 치워주는 것

3. 자녀가 가고자 하는 장소에 항상 데려다 주는 것

4. 휴대폰, 텔레비젼, 컴퓨터, 게임 등을 사주는 것

5. 자녀가 잘못을 했을 때 돈이나 기타 노력으로 자녀가 문제에서 빨리 벗어나게 하는 것

6. 자녀의 끊임없는 소비 특히 선물이나 과자, 좋지 않은 음식 등을 제공하는 것

7. 자녀가 잃어버리거나 잘못 둔 장난감이나 기타 물건을 다시 사주는 것

8. 자녀의 사회적 또는 기타 활동을 위해서 자녀의 모든 친구를 항상 환영해 주는 것